Just for the Guys

She's pregnant...Now what?

Your girlfriend, wife or partner has just told you that she’s pregnant or thinks she is. Too often the “guy” has been characterized as someone who fails to accept responsibility, only offers ultimatums, or simply leaves town. That stereotype is only accurate if you fail to step up to the plate and play an active role in learning about all the options you have in this situation.

The Do's053-800

  • Listen. The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.

  • Stay calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.

  • Talk about it – not only with each other but with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.

  • Gather all the facts. Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for both of you.

  • Express yourself honestly – it’s normal to have feelings of shock, confusion, frustration, and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.

The Don'ts

  • Don’t bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

  • Don’t pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regrettable situation. You will do well to work together as a team.

  • Don’t forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.

Step up to the plate! Bring your partner into our center for free pregnancy testing.